Love Like The Movies

　
Wouldn’t it be amazing if our love could be like the love we witness in the movies? Well friends, I have great news! It can!

Think about love in the movies? What is so different about it? Well, let me enlighten you. In the movies, you see this beautiful romance… It never fails, two people love each other, then there’s a problem and WOAH! The break up. Sounds familiar right? Then, the two people in the movies always seem to find each other again and live happily ever after.

Don’t tell me that this isn’t how it happens in the “real-world.” I’m not an expert in relationships at all. I have had my share and most of them failed. Isn’t that life? I have always been under the impression that only one will win. Only one should win…. And if it doesn’t, that’s another movie.

I have been in several leading rolls. It’s true. For instance, when I fell in love for the first time. I had never loved so deeply until I had met “Tony.” … Tony had resided in my apartment complex. He was beautiful, drove a fantastic vehicle and served me drinks when I went to his place of work. I was 19 so the drink part was kind of a big deal. Sometimes after work he would call me and ask if he could come over. I would wait on my balcony until I saw him pull in. My heart would skip beats when I would see his face or hear his voice. He would come over with flowers, wine, chocolate, a movie. We would lay in bed and watch a movie and then…..FALL ASLEEP. No really we would fall asleep. I always thought that he didn’t want more because he was super nice and gentleman like or maybe he didn't dig my lovely lady lumps. Boy was I wrong. He wasn’t into me, or any other human being that had girl privates. Sound like a movie?

Here’s another leading role I unintentionally landed. I met a guy who was super handsome. Every day he would make a point to drop into my office and say Hello. It was nice, he was nice, so I went out with him. He took me to a very expensive restaurant. So sexy. We ate steaks, shrimp, shared dessert, drank some martinis….racked up a real fine bill. Then he “forgot” his wallet and I paid. Should have been my first sign, but that would have made the movie too short. I continued to date this guy. He asked me out again and swore he wouldn’t forget his wallet. I went. We went to a Mexican restaurant. He knew all the waiters. O!! he worked here. I’m not above a waiter. I thought he was taking me for some good eats….. He took me out so he wouldn’t have to pay full price for our dinner. He told me “Order all you want I get a discount.” Maybe that would have been a great second hint, but I couldn’t take it - he was far to sexy and I chose to ignore that sign. Besides if you get a discount I think you should utilize it! Wouldn’t you? Of course you would - it’s a movie and you have to have enough material. After that dinner he took me to his house. This house was absolutely beautiful. It was huge and there was something too good to be true about this bachelor waiter living in one of the biggest homes I have ever been in. Then I noticed it had a ton of pictures of little kids. Are those your kids I asked? No those are my nieces and nephews.. O!! that’s so sweet!!! He went upstairs and drew me a bath in his parents room. First thought? I stink? Second thought and an arm pit sniff later I realize I smell like cherry blossoms and he just wants me naked. I go upstairs to the master bedroom….wine in tow and see that the bedding in this bedroom was far to beautiful to be his. Next thing I notice is all the women’s clothing in a walk in closet. Great. He’s married and has kids. I’m the mistress. NO! Not even close. I would have killed to have been the mistress in this movie. Instead, I take a closer look at the clothing and realize this is Mr. Wonderful parent home. Not getting naked tonight! I phoned a good friend to come to my rescue. I thanked this sexy idiot for a “wonderful” evening and ran like there was a piece of chocolate waiting for me in the car. EPIC. FAIL. Sound like a movie?

Finally friends, my most favorite romantic comedy. I married a back woods boy from the rural roads of Oklahoma. Romantic he is not. Brad Pitt, well that would be a stretch. I married Larry the Cable Guy. The most romantic present I have received in 6 valentines days was a fish. I know someone laughed at this. That is exactly why my marriage is a romantic comedy. If you asked Kirt and I to separately plan a Romantic Get-Away, money is not an issue, I know what the answer would be. So, friends here is the movie: Larry, or Kirt, wins a contest. He is getting an all expense paid trip for 2 anywhere in the world. He is so excited and comes home to tell his wife the great news. Melissa is so excited! Finally, something more romantic than a bug-eyed goldfish!! Where are we going!!?? Drummmmm Roooolllll PLEEEEEASE!!!

Lake Texoma!!!!! Pack your bags big mama or old lady (his terms of endearment) were going Stiper Fishing…..

For the record, if I could have a dream get-away for romantic valentines day I would love to share a kiss with the Eiffel Tower as my back drop. But, instead I will be striper fishing. I don’t even know what a striper fish is so I should probably Google that when I’m done here.

Don’t tell me that people wouldn’t pay money to see that movie!

Life isn’t about wishing you had love like the love that is on the big screen. Life is about finding the parts of your life that are better than the love that is featured on the silver screen. Everyone has the ability to find the love that is written in those scripts, you just have to watch carefully. Maybe you are already living a good movie and you just don’t realize it.

Stop worrying about what you don’t have. Learn to appreciate the love that you do have. You control your love story.

So that’s cliché? Well, I don’t understand why you can write your own love story. What is it that would make life more romantic for you? You have to open the lines of communication. I have had to tell kirt a million and ¾ times how unromantic he is. He finally got it for the first time in 6 years! Explain? Sure!

I like to think that I am always thinking about other people. I like to make sure that everyone in my life experiences a sentimental gift. These gifts never have to cost money, and will always make you feel good. Love notes are a start. I like to leave little sentiments on jolly ranchers and send them with Kirt in his pocket. When he finds a jolly rancher with a little note attached that reads “I Love You.”

Recently - and I really do mean after 6 years of zero romantic notions … Kirt brought me flowers, balloons, and reese pieces. He knew that I was heartbroken. I was so excited even though I was so empty from my loss. I knew that what Kirt did for me was heartfelt and sincere.

You may have to encourage your significant other to be more sentimental and you may have to do this a lot - but it will happen. It shouldn’t be a one way situation though. You cant ask the other person to be more romantic if you aren’t as romantic and heartfelt as you can be at all times. Kirt caught on to the trend, and I really think that there will be big changes in our marriage because he said it felt really good to surprise me and make me so happy. You really do write your own love story. If at anytime you feel like you are doing too much work, then its not the love story you are interested in. 6 years of solid commitment to molding Kirt into a Love Struck hopeless romantic took a lot of patience. It’s the fact that I didn’t ever give up on the hope that someday he would catch the craze that is the real love story.